For the Moms 💞

I found myself coming to a realisation that mothers are made from a totally different material of person. They are cut from a much finer cloth, that has super durable strength and never frays.

This all begins when a woman surrenders her body, from being a vessel of living to being a vessel of life. There are amazing things that happen to the female body as it prepares and creates a life chamber for a foetus.

While the miracle is often viewed from how the body makes way for the new being, there comes with it unnatural side effects that every physical attributes to pregnancy. There are bouts of nausea that are termed morning sickness that occur at any hour of the day. I recently discovered that name may be attributed to the fact that it is morning in a different time zone! The nausea turns the scent of your favourite perfume and body bar into the smell of putrefaction. But it doesn’t end there, everyone else around you dons the same stench in differing degrees. There are headaches that never end and are hard to soothe, yet the simplest thing can make them go away, yours is to figure out the art of guessing. Then there are the less graceful effects such as bloating and flatulence, which render you an active volcano – ready to blow at any given moment. And may force your spouse or family to be in serious need of gas masks! Then comes the sleeping beauty syndrome which allows you to fall asleep at the drop of a hat. You fall asleep in good time and wake up tired.

However, that does not take away the fact that there is a tiny miracle forming in you. Growing slowly but surely. I realise mothers are made from more than just woman, they’re made from love, struggle, sacrifice, pain and endurance.

This is for all mothers out there.

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Happy Anniversary 💞

Him:

As we grow older together, As we continue to change with age, There is one thing that will never change. . . I will always keep falling in love with you.!!

Happy Anniversary Babe

Her:

May our love age like fine wine, that gets better with time. I will always look to that one moment that changed my life, meeting you babe.

May you never steal, lie or cheat.

But if you do steal, steal my heart away again and again;

If you do lie, lie with me forever

And if you do cheat, cheat death and be with me

To me you’re that guy I never will stop falling in love with. Each day I learn new ways to love you and new reasons to keep falling deeper in love with you.

Saying I loved you before I met you sounds weird but the truth is you’re the man of my dreams and for six years I wake up to you💋💞

Happy anniversary Baabs.

Milk, Honey and Hercules

I watched a documentary of a young man who walked from Ethiopia to Libya. He lost four of his friends to the Sahara Desert’s heat but he made his way, to Calais, France. This man was in search of the illusive land flowing with milk and honey – the UK. He had been in Calais for almost six months and each day he attempted to make his way to the UK by any means possible.

This migrant is no different to any other migrants around the world. He has an objective and he is focused on fulfilling it despite any opposition that comes his way. Be it walking thousands of kilometres, sleeping in the bushes, bearing thirst and starvation, winter or desert conditions; even death has no hold on his objective. There is no shimmer of doubt in his voice or face that he will reach the UK, it is simply a question of time.

The land of milk and honey; every continent has one. This land seems so attractive with prospects galore of wealth and untold treasures for travellers who successfully face their labours or feats like the ‘demigod’ Hercules. My opinion: it sounds all too Rumplestiltskin and Cinderella like.

Are these places really lands flowing with milk and honey? My take: Those who successfully make it to the rich lands find the milk is owned by a farmers corporation, who runs a tight organisation. Where the cows are well fed but never spill a drop. The apiary is a large area where few have shares and each bee and its honey contributions are accounted for.

Those who tend to the cows and bees are paid in watered down soya milk and artificial honey that sweetens as they are promoted. The rest of the labour force is driven by the scent of freshly milked pots and sweet honey combs. Those who are young are educated in managing dairy farms and apiaries that do not exist. Local labourers wait at the gates of the farms and apiaries, for an opportunity to work their way to being shareholders or farmers. Those who come from outside the farm are met with an already long waiting list to get in line for a chance. While the labourers wait they are showered with raindrops of sugar flavoured milk with the scent of honey, which drives their longing to work.

While the allure of milk and honey is a-calling the reality is it never really is attainable, just like Pinocchio never really got to be a real boy, but his hope to be one spurred him on.

At close of the documentary the migrant is seen sitting at a Calais beach, with Dover in view – so near and yet so far.

Watching the world

Being in the passenger seat, staring out the window watching the trees speed by. Wondering what life is led in that pretty cottage. Seeing the sheep and horses graze in the field. For one reason or another it has a calming effect. As though your mind has shutdown for the holidays and has skeleton staff in place. As if you have opened up a little crack in the wall of your brain to a place of wonder, curiosity, deductions and color.

Sometimes we all need is to checkout of the lives we’re living. Take a break from being the CEO, secretary, receptionist, maid, bookkeeper, doctor, husband, waiter, mother, etc. and take a moment to be fully focused on something other than ourselves or even something mundane. Even that car ride that allows your mind to wonder about anything but what you can see before you.

One car ride to Yarm sent my mind on an amazing tour through winding roads, huge modern day windmills, a black sheep in a flock of white ones, a farmhouse built like a mansion, two horse riders taking their horses for stroll. All these painted pictures in my mind of life around there, so serene and relaxing. The very scenes I watched through the window slowed my heart rate, put my ever racing mind on pause. And for the duration of that drive I heard nothing of the conversation going on in the car neither could I hear the music playing in the background; it was just what my eyes could see and what my brain interpreted. The effect was calming.

I’m no psychiatrist or doctor but I definitely know how I felt and I strongly recommend it. Take some time out of your busy life and get front row seats to watch the world outside pass you by.

Out of Time

I took a walk through Stokesley, along a street of cobbled stones. The winter chill was in the air but it painted a beautiful picture. On the grey backdrop were beautifully colored leaves falling from trees. In shades of brown and gold, slowly gliding through the air to land on a silently running stream. A group of ducks silently paddled against the current with ease. Their plumage giving the silent stream life.

The  stream, the winter, the leaves and the Ivy Cottage both give a warm feeling despite the icy wind. England, Britain, United Kingdom; so many names for this beautiful place. Its unity has come into question (Brexit), the beautiful silence in these small villages and town has been broken (tourists). the peacefulness of this stream seems so unreal and so out of date. Amid the iPhone and MacBook, the Ivy Cottage seems like a fossil that has outlived its presence.

Someone asked if I would consider moving to England, and I paused for a bit. Wondering how magical and paradisiac the Moors made me feel. I remembered how walking in the North York Moors National Park made feel revived; breathing in all that fresh air bouncing off the pine trees. Soaking my grey Ugg boots in gold colored mud. Overlooking the beautiful dam and wondering at how silent it was. My response: I feel England is a land out of time. Lost in the old and the new, clinging on for dear life as development creeps in. It is no lie, England is a beautiful country and nothing takes your breath away than the sight of the old terraced houses; which are soured by the presence of cars parked on every inch of the curb. The serene streets and market days laced with the beautiful array of dialects of the English language. With the hills that are known as banks and farm lands that stretch for miles on end and the horses that wear coats in the winter. Where good morning and hello are replaced by alright? Oh England.

The home of the cheerful good mornings stained by the generation of earphones, headphones and loud music. The warm conversation curdled by the foul language that may accompany it. The beautiful nature walks and pedestrian lanes that are riddled with dog pooh. The tales of days when newts filled streams and ‘our Jim’ was still alive.

Would I live here, maybe, because the rest of the world has lost the paradisiac feel and look to it. But I fear England is out of time and may very well have the old slip off the edge of the cliff and the new refurbish the cliff into a five star hotel.

Smoke and mirrors

Perfectly cut, mirror polished, well decked, bedazzled, finely pressed, with an excellent sparkle and an alluring glow. It’s beautiful, breathtaking, awe inspiring, amazing with a cherry of wow on it.

The place you went on holiday looked amazing, I hope you didn’t go out of pocket on that one. You look so happy in that picture, I’m guessing you set your problems aside for that moment. That dress looks gorgeous, here’s hoping it didn’t set you back on your mortgage payments.

All the glitz and glamor people rake into one moment, one event; one combustible pause and the watchers fall envious at the their feet. That beautiful body; which may be a result of an illness; those well sculptured cheek bones, a result of surgery in one of the Koreas, that expensive jewelry, a family heirloom, those pictures that make us conjure up stories of an amazing holiday; which was secretly marred by fighting and drunkenness. That well dressed businessman drowning in debt, that expensive home about to foreclosed on. That country, the land of milk and honey; a fable told decades ago – a nation for the poor and hungry.

From a distance it’s a well painted portrait but take a closer look and it’s all smoke and mirrors. That wide beautiful smile may be gritted teeth with tension from the temples down to the jaw. That thoughtful gaze into the distance may be a silent prayer for help. That $2 million car may be on a test drive from the showroom.

We see what people choose to show us or we fill in the blanks for ourselves. Be careful not to envy the smoke and mirrors, no one wants to be the rabbit pulled out of the magician’s hat.

A well put on show only accounts for a fraction of the whole story. From this angle it’s all smoke and mirrors!

Peak n shovel

I have heard the words ‘dig deep’, used so often it is hard to quite find a meaning for them. But then again I find myself without depth sometimes. The feeling where you’re lying down and looking at the stars and it suddenly dawns on you that you’re not even visible as a speck from space. Beyond the lights and the dark expanse of the sea, no one can see you from space. You don’t stand out in a crowd; if anything you blend in quite well. In a sea of faces no one takes notice of you, red dress or not.

Many of us have lived average lives; went to an average rated school. We were average performers in class; were neither here nor there in sporting events – it wasn’t as though the team lost without you; if anything your absence made no difference. And then you join the workforce and you’re just another face at the company, supposedly part of a big thing and yet you feel so small, unnoticed by anybody, even in office gossip; if your name does come up it’s that you were either a witness or a bystander! Even in the beauty department you’re not a plain Jane but you’re no Scarlett Johansson.

And then you get to the average age and you have achieved nothing special mainly because the average person has what you have.

So how do us average folk dig deep? Well I think digging deep is not about what you draw out, it’s about what you find down there. It’s not about the numbers and characteristics that make you average, it’s about who you are. We are all unique in some way: like how some people prefer chewing MnMs with Skittles because they taste better together or how you dress from left to right or down and then up. Or how your million dollar signature looks like scribbles; or sleeping with a pillow under your feet instead of your head or bathing before midnight allows you not to bath all day tomorrow.

Digging deep means you remember you, especially on a day when you feel like a single atom in a sea of water. But remember that without you that sea would be incomplete.

So come on, peak and shovel in hand: let’s go digging!